As we surround ourselves with ambition, there is a danger of being overcome by the warrior inside us all.
Some people like to celebrate that kind of mindset, but where will it lead us in the end?
If we frame our efforts around the idea of struggle, of domination and power, even challenges we have already overcome can become a burden.

Everyone tries to set boundaries on what we are capable of, limits on what we are able to achieve, often because they’re settling for less than what their heart tells them they deserve. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. Most people accept the limits that society places on them, and never try to push beyond the invisible walls which keep them in their place.

We all know that ego can lead us astray sometimes, but how can we develop a healthier relationship with our sense of self?
Certainly, denying ourselves and ignoring how we feel is no path to happiness, but always chasing after happiness is a road with no end. Eventually it will leave us totally exhausted, always looking ahead to the next thing, never able to settle, never able to just be present and live in the moment. Regardless of whether it’s wealth, fame, popularity, or something else that we feel we need, there will always come a saturation point for our soul.

The fallacy of self is a dangerous reality for so many of us these days, and it can lead us astray if we’re not careful.
It’s easy to see ourselves at the center of everything, to always be looking out for number one. Every decision we make, every dream we hold onto, it’s all just about ourselves, about getting something in return, but it doesn’t have to be.

We talk about resilience a lot on this podcast, so it’s important to remember what that means with someone who knows from personal experience.
It’s not always about being ‘tough’ or only focusing on the masculine energy of life, it’s about being compassionate, motivated, and responsible for your choices.
It’s about bouncing back from the challenges of life, but with the vision and determination to take you somewhere new. Aren Singh Bahia understands the effort it takes to turn your life around, and how that doesn’t always look like going ‘back’ at all.

How do you lead? Leadership often gets confused with control, or even worse, domination. With bending people to our will and enforcing our way of doing things, but it doesn’t have to work like that at all. The earth herself teaches us that systems thrive through balance, sensitivity and nuance. We are all part of the planet, so why would it be any different with people?

Vulnerability might not be something we immediately associate with leadership.
Many of us grew up with infallible superhuman action heroes, who never put a foot wrong or suffered a moment of doubt, but those days are over. People need leaders who they can relate to, who they can make a human connection with.

Nobody is responsible for your life but you. Does that sound scary? It shouldn’t.
So many people in this world are driven by fear, fear of judgement from other people, fear of failure, and even fear of themselves. Taking responsibility for our life is a big deal, but whether we do it or not doesn’t change the basic reality. We are all on our own path, and while people may come and go from our lives, and we can try and put the responsibility for our choices on them, at the end of the day it all comes back to us.

Where you are today doesn’t have to define your tomorrow.
Whatever your situation right now, it doesn’t take much to transform your life, you just need the right elements in place. Maybe you’re holding on to some negativity or suffering from your past, maybe that makes you doubt yourself, and question whether you’ve really got what it takes to bring about real positive change. Maybe you’re stuck in the same old daily routine. If that sounds like you, if your past is dragging you down, then you need to think seriously about changing your environment.

Everyone talks about self love as if it’s something that just appears out of nowhere, as if we should just expect to love ourselves infinitely without any effort, but it’s more complicated than that. Everyone is looking for love, it’s part of being human, but if we don’t feel it from ourselves we become dependent on getting it from other people. That can start us on a dangerous path of focusing on what other people think of us and trying to please them, instead of focusing on our own legitimate needs.