There are so many expectations placed on all of us, all the time. By society, by our friends and family, and especially by ourselves. We are told how to behave, what to do and who we should be, and suddenly we find ourselves on autopilot, just going through life accepting things, but not actually living them.

Everything we need is already inside us. It’s something we’re told again and again, so often that it can sometimes sound like a cliché, but it’s true.
If we have the courage to let go, to stop struggling against the flow of life and instead dive headfirst into the current, allowing our feelings to guide us and our hearts to absorb the wisdom of every experience, we will truly break free from fear.

To change the world we must first change ourselves, so even if your goal is the unity of an entire community you can’t afford to neglect establishing unity within yourself first.
Leadership is not a single person’s job, it’s a collective expression of dedication towards a goal, where everyone has their part to play, and each individual recognizes that their highest value is as a part of something greater than themselves.

Understanding our own role in the situations of our life is a profound learning process which provides critical insight into who we are, and how we can move forward. 
All of us have the power to make change, to initiate transformation in our own lives and in the lives of people around us, and the moment we can let go of our own ego and act out of love, the results can be phenomenal. 

As we surround ourselves with ambition, there is a danger of being overcome by the warrior inside us all.
Some people like to celebrate that kind of mindset, but where will it lead us in the end?
If we frame our efforts around the idea of struggle, of domination and power, even challenges we have already overcome can become a burden.

Everyone tries to set boundaries on what we are capable of, limits on what we are able to achieve, often because they’re settling for less than what their heart tells them they deserve. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. Most people accept the limits that society places on them, and never try to push beyond the invisible walls which keep them in their place.

We all know that ego can lead us astray sometimes, but how can we develop a healthier relationship with our sense of self?
Certainly, denying ourselves and ignoring how we feel is no path to happiness, but always chasing after happiness is a road with no end. Eventually it will leave us totally exhausted, always looking ahead to the next thing, never able to settle, never able to just be present and live in the moment. Regardless of whether it’s wealth, fame, popularity, or something else that we feel we need, there will always come a saturation point for our soul.

The fallacy of self is a dangerous reality for so many of us these days, and it can lead us astray if we’re not careful.
It’s easy to see ourselves at the center of everything, to always be looking out for number one. Every decision we make, every dream we hold onto, it’s all just about ourselves, about getting something in return, but it doesn’t have to be.

We talk about resilience a lot on this podcast, so it’s important to remember what that means with someone who knows from personal experience.
It’s not always about being ‘tough’ or only focusing on the masculine energy of life, it’s about being compassionate, motivated, and responsible for your choices.
It’s about bouncing back from the challenges of life, but with the vision and determination to take you somewhere new. Aren Singh Bahia understands the effort it takes to turn your life around, and how that doesn’t always look like going ‘back’ at all.

How do you lead? Leadership often gets confused with control, or even worse, domination. With bending people to our will and enforcing our way of doing things, but it doesn’t have to work like that at all. The earth herself teaches us that systems thrive through balance, sensitivity and nuance. We are all part of the planet, so why would it be any different with people?